Tuesday, September 16, 2008

My Life is a Downward Spiral

Well, I know it’s been awhile since I’ve last posted. It’s just that I’ve started school and we all know that the beginning of the school term is always busy.

Ben’s been very ill. Mom had to take him to the hospital again. He had been in there so many times. There was once when he was admitted into hospital so they could put in a special equipment to take some of the fluid out of his head. Apparently, it was not possible to take out all of the fluid. He had also been admitted because he gets so sick, so easily. Normally, illnesses such as a cold, that other babies would have recovered from easily, would make Ben suffer a lot and he would take a long time to recover. It frightens me whenever he gets a cold. It’s so hard for him to breathe and my heart breaks when I see him fighting for breath.

Sometimes, I think my family is going to fall apart, if my parents are not careful. To be honest, my family life these past couple of months has been really awful. Recently, mom has been talking on the phone to Aunt Janice and many times, I’ve heard her complaining about Dad. She always stops when she sees me listening.

Ever since Dad got the job that requires him to regularly travel overseas, we haven’t been seeing him at home much. Whenever he comes home now, he’s always so serious. He will never joke around with us like he used to and I blame Mom for it. It’s ALL her fault. Whenever he starts to joke with us, she will look at him angrily and say sarcastic things like,

“No wonder you’re always in a good mood. After all, you’re not the one who has to be stuck at home taking care of a sick kid and with no one to talk to.”

Can you believe that? Poor dad will then stop smiling, and look guilty and irritated. Can you blame him? And I’m so insulted! She said she has no one to talk to. What am I? Am I a Nobody?!?! And I’m irritated by the way she complains to Aunt Janice about Dad. When I grow up, I’m never going to talk bad about people behind their backs. It’s just not right!


Worried and Irritated,
Anna Peacock.

12 comments:

.venusa. said...

Hello ! Gosh ! I think it's wrong of Anna to think this way. I think she must think how her mother feels too. I know that when she reach the age of 13 and above,she would start to think all these and all that. But I think,she should care her mum feels too. I mean,Benedict is not only her mum's child. I think Benedict is also her dad's child. So,I think,Anna's father should also take care of Benedict instead of keep working overseas,because family is more important. But I think it's also wrong of Anna's mum to complain to Aunt Janice. I feel that,Anna's dad also need to work. He can't possibly stay at home all day just to look after Benedict. But I feels that,Anna's dad cannot be working whole day long ignoring his family. And,I think,Anna's mum should not blame him. And,I think Anna should try to understand how her mum feels instead of blaming her for complaining to Auntie Janice. (:

cheryl said...

hello
i am cherlotte
i know
how worried
u feel about ben
and i think
ur dad should be taking care of this house
and find another suitable job instead of finding a job that require him to go overseas everytime
and i think u should
be more understanding towardas ur mother

JO! said...

Aww , Anna .
Cheer up alrights ?
Do not be worry for Ben's condition ,
Life & death is just a process humans have to face ( not saying to curse you )
Often , kids with illness tends to fall sick easily as they are weak , compared to others .
I can understand your feeling,
But try not to think too much about it [x

- -

Your family wont fall apart ,
a family shall always be family ,
Blood is thicker than water .
Perhaps you could try talking to your parents ,
Trying to sort out and clearing misunderstandings ..
Your mother complains to Aunt Janice because she cares for your father ,
But in a very .. different way . (:

- -

You can talk to your mother about your father .
You should not hate your mother because of a minor incident .
Afterall , she is your mother [x

NamikoYume said...

Hehhs Anna.
Stop thinking negativly.
Ben is getting sick nowadays.Even small sickness like cold gets him in a difficulty state.Your mother is just trying not to let you be difficult . You are not nothing you are just her EVERYTHING .
Well it sure is Ludicrous when she stare at your father that seriously and talk those ludicrous stuff. well, im sure to be really being insulted if i was ur dad.And anyway , complaining to Aunt Janice was just one of her excuse. She just want attention too . maybe it really sounds absurb . But she really need help. Not wanting you to worry then .
Because of your father , Ben and also family problems , her difficulty level keep on pilling up. You must really understand their problems. and heh girl , get it right , your father is working so hard that he hardly see all off you in a period or in other way , you are hardly able to see him. You might be right , he only came home on a period but he cant even joke with you when your mother complained. But whats for ? your mother is in a difficult state. In otherwords., damily is important then jobs. Your dad should really tried to change his job , maybe not so tiring , not overseas job.
Cheer up alright.
Heed my advice ! . You would get in a right path. Stop blaming ur Mother :DDD

alrighht !?
:D Cheeeerrs ;
Cherlyn

rocketmail said...

Hey, Anna,she is your mother though.Maybe you should talk with her sometime about why both of you are not that similar...I do not really know, but maybe your bond with your mother will become more tighter...
-asyran...

Anonymous said...

O.o ... thats very childish of you Anna , you should understand your mother more as your mother has to do the houseworks and take care of Ben.

Your mother don't mean to say that theres no body to talk to . Is that she thinks your too young too understand her .

xuan said...

Perhaps , you should attempt to tell your parents , how you feel about them .

Maybe after that you have told them how you feel , your dad might try to spend some more time on you =)

cloudstrife said...

Anna!!! you shouldn't blame your mother..... This is not her fault.. It is yours just as much as it is hers, your dad's and even katy's.... Look your mother is busy taking care of Ben.... she scolds your Father because she does not have any other way to vent all of that anger and frustration. She doesn't vent it on you nor on katy because she loves you and doesn't want to hurt you... where as for your father, he can always talk to your mother and sort things out.. she still loves your father, its just that both your parents are busy. your mother is taking care of Ben, Katy and you... Your Father is trying to earn money to feed you and everyone else in the house... Its your Dad's fault for not comming back early to look after Ben. Its your Mother's fault for not trying to find an alternative way to vent all of her anger and frustration, Its Katy's fault for being jealous of Ben and its your fault for not trying to help your family not jus Ben but even trying to talk nicely to your family and getting to know and understand your mother's, father's and katy's feelings. alright? so don't jus blame it all on your mother. ok?

Hello Avere! :) said...

hey Anna,
cheerup, maybe your mum is just feeling stress with Ben.

try to understand her more and make a bond between both of you.

goodluck! :)

Unknown said...

Hello , Anna . Please don't be worry about Ben's condition , he's gonna be alright .

And also , you must try to understand your mother as she is stressed out . Remember , it is difficult to take care of a baby , let alone a baby with a condition like this .

Your mother also talk to auntie Janice about your father because he needs a listening ear , thats all . Or maybe she used that as a topic to talk to your auntie Janice as she is bored .

Try to talk to your parents and get close to them . Try not to argue with them . :D

AnakMalek said...
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AnakMalek said...

Hey Anna, relax girl. I also pity your brother for having to suffer in that age. You should be by his side, helping him through thick & thins.
Well Anna, you can't think that way towards your mother. She carries more burden than you having to take care three children at the same time. And Ben with that condition. Well, you should be helping her taking care of Ben, not putting all the blame on her. I think your father too should understand your mother, try advising your father to understand your mother who have to take crae of Ben. Ask your father to make her happy by helping her instead of telling jokes making her feel frustrated thinking that your father always not with her sharing the burden of taking care of the family.
I know your mom is changing a bit. She's getting more hot-tempered. You can't blame her though. She really needs you especially by her side sharing all her burden with you.
Try to understand your mom ok??
I know your a sensible girl.

Ok till here.
Bye.
Take care.
Loves,
Siti

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